Mindset to deal with unsupportive parents after coming out

You're all grown up and independent, at this stage and going forward they need you much more than you need them. And they no longer have to "parent" you any-more nor do you have to be "parented" by them in any way.

You don't have to put up with any nonsense or unacceptable behaviour from them.

While it would be wonderful to have it, you don't need their approval or blessings to live your life in a way that you know is right for you.

You've revealed your truth to them and now it's up to them to make an effort to understand things and be there for you. You of course can and will help them in their journey of learning more about you, but they also need to put in effort in good faith on their end.

It is completely okay and even beneficial to take a break or cut down time on a relationship that is proving toxic. Your own health and well-being, both physical and psychological come first here.

They will take time in fully processing and internalizing this "new reality" but you don't have to subject yourself their whims, random thoughts and concerns while they learn more about and process this

All we can do is be the best version of ourselves, help them the best we can while not hurting ourselves, and hope that with time things (especially those that are outside our direct control, like the thoughts of others) will eventually fall in place. And they will one way or another

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They will have certain beliefs, and hopes and plans for you but at the same time you are your own person, you do not in any way owe it to them to follow along on the path they've set for you, even if culture and social pressures make it appear like you do.

Trust yourself, you're all grown up and you know yourself better than they ever could. Their default path may work alright for cis-het people who can conform to society but it can be really painful for both them and especially you to follow it, when you know you don't fit the mould they have envisioned for you.

It is better to be your authentic self and have them adapt and come to terms with to it over time, rather than toe their line and suffer, leading them to suffer as well down the line, even if they cannot see it yet

What they see as "good" for you may in reality cause much pain and suffering down the line, especially for you but also for them. They just don't know your mind well enough to be right about what's "good" for you all the time