Coping with abusive and unsupportive parents/friends/family

For anyone coping with abusive or non accepting parents/family/friends, you're not alone and most importantly you're not at fault in any way!

You are in no way responsible for their unsupportive behaviour or thoughts or actions

Communities like:


 * https://www.reddit.com/r/EstrangedAdultChild/
 * https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/
 * https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbyborderlines/
 * https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/
 * https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOFAMILY/

can really help you cope

Just reading through some of those stories will help you internalize the fact that none of this is your fault and that you're not alone in this

Please also go through https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/etll3q/insanely_helpful_post_i_found_on_tumblr/ to check for signs of abuse in your relationships (often times survivors don't realize they've been in an abusive relationship and tend to deflect and protect their abuser)

And everyone should learn about setting healthy boundaries, especially with any authority figures in your life - https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/set-boundaries#how-to-define-your-boundaries

Breaking out of a pattern of abuse is never easy, neither is setting healthy boundaries at first. But it is very much worth that initial pain/struggle.

And a professional counsellor will be able to help you through all of this in case you need it

Silence and turning a blind eye only helps the abuser and will only lead to the abuse escalating over time. Best nip these things in the bud when you can.

Voicing your experiences out in safe spaces and online communities can be a good first step